Perception

The POWER OF PERCEPTION If we want to understand the challenges of communication, we need to start with the notion of perception. We too often assume that our reality is automatically someone else’s reality. In fact this is hardly ever so.    In life, in our work, we are all on a continuous journey. We all carry our imaginary backpack in which we unconsciously store our experiences, convictions and beliefs. Our caretakers, our childhood and family situation, our friends, education, religious and cultural background, … all define the contents of that backpack. Our paradigm shapes the lens through which we observe the world around us. Needless to say that no backpack is the same, and that therefore there is no such thing as one single reality. We all have our own interpretation of what goes on around us. In training sessions on effective communication, I often get the remark that facts…
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Take (even) more care of yourself

Every connection, every relationship, whether professional or personal, starts with the connection and relationship with ourselves. I often hear coachees being harsh for themselves. In this VUCA (Volatile, Uncertain, Complex & Ambiguous) world we feel we must be nothing less than perfect and preferably all the time. And that is where the harshness gets in. The pressure we put on ourselves is often sky high, the elastic is stretched until it snaps and we have to admit that constantly aiming for perfection is dragging us down. That is often the point where the search for someone’s authentic true self begins and I, as a coach, step in. One of the first things I usually ask my clients to…
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